For quite awhile I have been dressing in suitable (but fashionably chic) for Victory Brunches. For 2 reasons: I loathe to let anyone view my “after Coronation” androgyny. The “Liz Loren” transformation is a theatrical performance from start to finish–and when it is finished, my boy self personae re-establishes itself in Toto–Liz goes back to Never Never Land where movie stars never age and are always Ladies.
However, I do not exactly LOOK like the boy me without facial hair and strong Clark Gable eyebrows. Not that facial hair is hiding some chinless deformity or horrible scar–I just don’t look like me–and feel uncomfortable. Plus, like Dame Edna and her counterpart Barry Humphrey’s, I have a totally separate life than Liz.
The second, and I believe the most important reason is: I dress for brunch out of respect for the New Empress who has to sit there all afternoon in full regalia while everyone else lounges in casual wear and no wigs or crowns!
I felt this was a nice gesture…until the ‘Night Of A Thousand Gowns’ Victory Brunch
I swept in on the arm of Tzar Drue a little more than fashionably late and was the only one in face (and a smart black silk Fedor suit with ropes of pearls and a Paris hat) I was lead to a front table thru a crowd that gawked–but I could swear the New Empress Farrah mouthed “thank you ” to me.
Later, after a quick photo shoot in Times Square where a crowd of tourist kept murmuring “who IS she?” I relaxed and got ready to go home–my own androgynous features unafraid of nameless people on planes. MUCH later I was informed by a wise and long time member of The Court System that…
“One does not dress and wear face at Victory Brunches–one does not try to out do the new Empress.”
She went onto say “everyone was talking about your entrance Liz” without a description of whether or not the talk was positive or negative. I was chagrined and chastised.
Of course, I am older than most new Empresses so “out-doing” her youth and beauty was not on my agenda–but still–I am learning a lot of Court Rules that date back many decades. I meant well.
It was only a day later that I received an email from the New York Empress telling me how beautiful I was and thanked me for getting up early in the AM to dress and make up for her Victory Brunch after such a long and arduous Coronation the night before! Apparently she had not heard the old rules! There seems to be a lot of new, young Monarchs that appreciate “intent” and gestures of respect that signify modern Monarchies–such as the Crown Prince of England and his friendly, out going and appreciation of his subjects adoration. No musty regimes for this young Prince!
So I will continue my gesture of respect–although I will check with the new Empress first and see what she is wearing and of course dress down from there! The first time I met the Queen Mum Nicole was at a Victory Brunch and she assumed I was a gender change full stop! After the shock wore off, I laughed and told her also that it was a total performance! Now I realize, due to the old rule, why she thought this!